When marriages become troubled a common place to turn to for help is the internet. People just like you look for answers that will solve a problem, improve their marriages, or prevent a separation or divorce. Unfortunately, too many marriage and relationship websites offer bad advice. Their content is often directed toward giving up and moving on. That’s one reason why I started this website.
Marriage Guardian takes the positive point of view that your marriage can be happy, healthy and strong. What you will find here is good, actionable information that you can use to improve your marital relationship. It is well-researched information, and I hope you trust it enough to use it. I am dedicated to your success in marriage.
Of course, not everything works for everyone, and that is why this site does not focus on just one course of action. You will have to decide for yourself what might work for you and your spouse, given your situation. But if one thing doesn’t work, please don’t give up. Try something else. Remember that God doesn’t give up on you, and He doesn’t give up on your spouse, either. The two of you always have choices. Find the ones that work for you.
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My name is Chuck, and I know from personal experience how much a troubled marriage hurts. We were married for nine years when she walked out. She had tried leaving once before, but I talked her out of it and we tried marriage counseling. Our relationship got a little better for a while, but it never really took off. Our marriage never regained that feeling of “us together” like we had at the beginning. It mostly felt like “her and me.”
So maybe the separation shouldn’t have been such a shock to me, but it still was. We were separated for about a year and a half. During that time I wanted her to come back. I still loved her, and I wanted her to love me again. But I didn’t have a clue as to how to convince her to return.
I asked her to go back to counseling with me, but she refused. Not knowing what else to do, I did nothing and waited, hoping she would change her mind. However, the time apart just increased her resolve to stay away, and made divorcing easier for her.
That divorce is my second reason for building this website. I had to figure out why it happened, and if there was anything I could have done to prevent it. The things I discovered through my research for Marriage Guardian would have helped. I would have understood her, and myself, much better. We could have had better conversations about the things that bothered us. We could have restored the intimacy that we let fade away. And certainly, we would have gotten better marriage counseling.
Looking back, I feel so disappointed over what happened because it was all avoidable. There is no “fixing things” now as she has remarried. (Update: I discovered in 2015 that she is now on husband #3.)
Over the years I’ve watched as five of my seven nephews and nieces married, only to later separate and divorce. Some had young children. Each has their own story, but it’s all sad, and I know they, their spouses, and their children have been scarred by the breakup of their marriages.
And that is my third reason for creating this website. I want to make divorce a very rare event, both in my family and in yours. My desire in developing Marriage Guardian is to help you make your marriage happy, intimate, and satisfying for years and decades to come.
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